…to be able to freely talk about them in a way where they know what they’re talking about? I mean, take my sister-in-law for example. She has is a total sanitary/health FREAK who washes her hands 90 times a day, has NO tattoos at all, would NEVER even remotely consider getting a tattoo, has never even studied up or read up on them and has never seen a documentary on TV about them, but she makes it a point to remind anyone who she knows that has a tattoo/multiple tattoos that, by having that/those tattoo(s), they are now forever excluded from ever donating blood again or ever donating bone marrow. But the problem is, even if someone were to show her proof printed online that those claims aren’t true, she would refuse to believe them.
Does she sound like a total hypocrite/know-it-all or can you see where she’s coming from?
Hypocrite, definition:
1. a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, esp. a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.
2. a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, esp. one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.
Annoying, definition:
1. a person who constantly complains about their wife’s family on an online fourm.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
1. a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, esp. a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.
2. a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, esp. one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.
Annoying, definition:
1. a person who constantly complains about their wife’s family on an online fourm.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
Nice, but I could do without the backhandedness.
Hi tat2d
In response to your question – any person who washes their hands that number of times and feels the need to impose on others a regime of extreme sanitary health warnings is not a hypocrite – they are ill.
It sounds like your sister in law is exhibiting a nervous disorder known as obssessive compulsive disorder and their behaviour should be treated with sympathy no matter how irritating. I work with 2 colleagues who suffer from similar issues and obsessively clean mine, theirs and anybody elses workspace they can. Hell they would clean your head if you sat still long enough.
As for the question about tattoos – yes I think a person can talk about tattoos in the way that a person can crtique any other type of art.
They can also know the workings and uses of inks and machines to the minute degree.
The main difference is a psychological one – when we get inked we bond with our tattoos. Whether it is for meaning or for fun that ink is a permanent reminder of a decision we took so that coupled with the pain is what makes the difference.
When I get tattooed I do it because I love the art – but if I am honest I do it conquer my own fears about pain and endurance. I also do it because I draw strength from the experience and comfort from my own ink.
Perhaps that is what non-tattooed people cannot comprehend?
Take Care
Matthew
In response to your question – any person who washes their hands that number of times and feels the need to impose on others a regime of extreme sanitary health warnings is not a hypocrite – they are ill.
It sounds like your sister in law is exhibiting a nervous disorder known as obssessive compulsive disorder and their behaviour should be treated with sympathy no matter how irritating. I work with 2 colleagues who suffer from similar issues and obsessively clean mine, theirs and anybody elses workspace they can. Hell they would clean your head if you sat still long enough.
As for the question about tattoos – yes I think a person can talk about tattoos in the way that a person can crtique any other type of art.
They can also know the workings and uses of inks and machines to the minute degree.
The main difference is a psychological one – when we get inked we bond with our tattoos. Whether it is for meaning or for fun that ink is a permanent reminder of a decision we took so that coupled with the pain is what makes the difference.
When I get tattooed I do it because I love the art – but if I am honest I do it conquer my own fears about pain and endurance. I also do it because I draw strength from the experience and comfort from my own ink.
Perhaps that is what non-tattooed people cannot comprehend?
Take Care
Matthew
Great post, Sherav! Thank you very much. I understand what you posted, but I still don’t know if she has room to talk about the tattoo process, at least to the extent that she makes herself sound like she knows what getting one is like, because I’m sorry, she doesn’t…because she doesn’t have any tattoos. That’s not to say that a person HAS to have a tattoo to know anything about them, but I don’t think it’s right for someone who has never had a tattoo, will never consider getting one and who hasn’t even studied a single thing about them, to go talking about how they are bad to have and the health risks involved. I mean, me having a tattoo now permanently excludes me from the possibility of ever donating blood or bone marrow? C’mon now…does she realize how ridiculous that sounds? And furthermore, where on God’s green earth did she hear that I can NEVER again donate blood or bone marrow?
That’s because you’re a spoiled selfish brat who has no business being in a serious relationship, much less married. From your posts thus far, you rarely, if ever, consider other people’s feelings, thoughts, or opinions, and ignore everything people say that isn’t exactly what you wanted to hear.
Matthew is a MUCH more patient person than I am, because he took the time to respond to you as a human being, and to respond honestly. Frankly, other than him being a genuinely nice person outside of his job, I don’t see the point because the smallest, tiniest amount of introspection would have brought you the same answer: the woman has issues, and she is your family. Rather than bitching about how annoying her habits are, you should be trying to ease her life because, again, she is your family.
When I post this, you have a post count of 15. More than half of them are dedicated to bashing your wife’s family. Frankly, I wish I could direct her here so she could see what you really think of her and hers. Obviously you’re too much of a pussie to tell her in real life, otherwise your marriage would be in some serious trouble.
Frankly, I don’t know why I waste time responding to you.
Oh.
Wait.
I do.
You’re an annoying little twat with no consideration, and the emotional maturity of one of those stunted sixteen year old monsters off My Super Sweet Sixteen.
In closing:
Do you really like it better without the backhandedness? Because I gotta say, the first post was alot more fun to write.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
P.S.: Oh, and the never donate marrow or blood again thing is a common misconception even among the heavily tattooed. Since you’re barred for one whole year after your most recent piece (in order to give bloodbornes, Hep, and HIV time to show up), alot of people think it’s a forever deal.
But, then again, I imagine you’re going to ignore the part about how even people with alot of tattoo knowledge and personal experience sometimes makes that mistake because then it makes your poor sister in law not an idiot, but someone under a common misconception.
Jackass.
Love. Peace. Metallica. (again)
Wow, I’m done with this. Even DonnaMH went from agreeing with me in the beginning and saying “If it was me, I would be flaunting them all over the place” to siding with the rest of you about how disrespectful I am. Apparently, we’re just going to have to agree to disagree on this one, because I’m sorry, but my wife’s parents, her sister and “Grandma” aren’t fully accepting ALL of me without any strings attached. They seem to like me as a person, but they HATE my tattoos. And I’m sorry, but I don’t have a whole lot of respect for my wife’s Grandma and her sister. Niether of those women are anyone important to me. Who is her sister? Just a girl who happens to be the sister of my wife. I’m sorry, but I do not and will never consider her family. She’s not. At least, that’s not what I signed on for. She is not my sister. She is just a woman who happens to be my wife’s sister. Same thing with Grandma. She is not my Grandma. I don’t want her to try to be my Grandma. In fact, I already have two Grandmas who are still both alive and kickin’, so I don’t need a third, especially one who is going to be the TOTAL opposite of my two Grandmas, and not fully accept me because of a choice I made. So, niether my wife’s sister’s opinion nor Grandma’s opinion really mean a whole lot to me. Honestly, if I never saw either of them ever again, I can’t sit here and lie to you and say it would really kill me all that much, because it wouldn’t. This issue is done.
Hi Tat2d.
Really it is not that our opinions matter with regards to how you handle family – it is always a controversial and difficult area. With regards to the family issue – you can always private msg me if you ever want to vent or just talk it over (I am not saying we have to agree but you can have a sounding board). I can even pass on my email.
What I would suggest is that you can put your energy and passion into the whole ink scene.
Your likes/dislikes of ink, what ink you would love if you could/afford, fave artists hell even the craziest tattoo that you have ever seen.
The forum is here so that we can escape the hassles of family/work life and to enjoy the one thing that links us all our love of tats.
Take it easy
Matthew
tatbalddude i read a couple of you other posts and it sounds like you either need to grow a pair an tell ur wifes family to kiss your ass an mind there buisness an not worry bout what you do. I saw your pics of tats and you hardly have enough tats to cover even 5% of your body so its not like your a walkin peice of artwork. The amounts of tats shouldn’t even be an issue, its sounds like you either need to spend less time with her family or get a divorce if this is that much of a problem. An last but not least………. why do you even care what they think? I mean my old lady’s family has there dumb shit to say from time to time (not about tats but other shit that isn’t ne of there buisness) an i ignore it and remind myself that there penut sized brains hardly can handle there bodies normal life functions let alone the ability to rationalize and come up with a coherent thought.
I try my very best to avoid them at all costs an when they do have an opinion about something that i do I don’t care who they are and if there family or not I’ll tell them to mind there own buisness that were both adults and will do whatever the hell we gawd dam well please.
and i’ll end with a quick question… Do you and your wife live with her family?
Why don’t you try here?
http://forums.families.com/counseling,f128
Once again, this is a tattoo website. You are making me lose the will to live, seriously.
Ok…in my own defense….I was mouthing off, as I do, and told you not to take me seriously, dude, I was freaking kidding, though in my life, it may be what I would of done… see I HAVE balls, and I don’t allow anyone to dictate how I live my life, but if there ever was a problem like yours I would be talking to my freaking husbands family about it and coming up with an acceptable resolution for everyone…I thought you might have got that from EVERYONE’S posts on here that have basically said that, but you don’t seem to absorb anything anyone says. I was saying you were being disrespectful to the people on the site, who seriously tried to give you good advice that you just didn’t take. Matthew took a good long time writing you a very insightful answer and you fucking basically ignored everything he said, without even thanking him for the 20 mins. or so it took him to reply to your post, just to say: and I “quote”…
So, has anyone else had the chance to review my post on page 5 about the questions regarding using class and tact with Grandma? I think this would really help me get over any immaturity that I may be displaying in this situation.
I mean holy shit…..if that isn’t the disrespectful I have no idea what is….nuff said…
You sure do bring the issue up a lot to not care…
They make forums for EVERYTHING.
Not saying everything has to be on topic but if you want to talk about the same thing over and over (only using the example of them not liking tattoos as why you are on a tattoo forum) then maybe you should find another forum for family related issues, hell I think one has already been linked to.
1. a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, esp. a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.
2. a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, esp. one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.
Annoying, definition:
1. a person who constantly complains about their wife’s family on an online fourm.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
I LOVE YOU…WILL YOU HAVE MY BABIES???:p
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