The foot hurts something terrible! least painful, I would say shoulder/upper arm. Butt side of hip hurts pretty bad too, at least mine did, I think it got close to that nerve, don’t know how to spell it but it sounds like si-attic. Anyhow, I have always felt first tatto should be meaningful to you. I am pretty much a girly-girl too, and want all my tats to be feminine. I have found that if you get flowers in with what ever you decide on, it adds a more feminine look to it. And bright colors keep them looking more girly. I would suggest your favorite flower, or look around on the internet to find something unusual that would suit you. Good luck finding your perfect design!