I’m sorry you had to go through this bullshit Blue dude.
But take some advice from me. The whole “remain friends” with your ex thing is a crock of shit, especially when they’ve hurt you like he did. You’re leaving him because he treated you with absolute disregard, because he didn’t give a damn about how you felt as long as he got what he wanted. Who the hell needs a friend like that? A friend is supposed be have your back no matter what, be there to pound down a few shots, help hide a body, and everything in between.
Besides, no matter how bad a partner treats you in a relationship, it’s comfortable because it’s familiar. As time passes, the sting and the details of what they did fade, and emotionally, what you’re left with is the familiarity. Hell, I can hear it in your voice already. You’ve gone from wanting to bite him in the face to talking tenderly about wanting to remain friends with him.
I’m not saying if you don’t cut him off completely you’ll slide back into a relationship with him again….but it could happen again regardless of your intentions. At the very least, it can lead to awkwardness and hassle you just plain don’t need.
And seriously, he didn’t touch you for how many years, then cheated on you. Fuck him with a chainsaw man. Seriously. He doesn’t deserve to have you in his life at all.
Just sayin.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
But take some advice from me. The whole “remain friends” with your ex thing is a crock of shit, especially when they’ve hurt you like he did. You’re leaving him because he treated you with absolute disregard, because he didn’t give a damn about how you felt as long as he got what he wanted. Who the hell needs a friend like that? A friend is supposed be have your back no matter what, be there to pound down a few shots, help hide a body, and everything in between.
Besides, no matter how bad a partner treats you in a relationship, it’s comfortable because it’s familiar. As time passes, the sting and the details of what they did fade, and emotionally, what you’re left with is the familiarity. Hell, I can hear it in your voice already. You’ve gone from wanting to bite him in the face to talking tenderly about wanting to remain friends with him.
I’m not saying if you don’t cut him off completely you’ll slide back into a relationship with him again….but it could happen again regardless of your intentions. At the very least, it can lead to awkwardness and hassle you just plain don’t need.
And seriously, he didn’t touch you for how many years, then cheated on you. Fuck him with a chainsaw man. Seriously. He doesn’t deserve to have you in his life at all.
Just sayin.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
I read a previous post about this guy by you, Blue…
So I’m semi-informed.
And this ^^^
IS EXACTLY right.
KH, props to you on the psychological evaluation/insight.
But take some advice from me. The whole “remain friends” with your ex thing is a crock of shit, especially when they’ve hurt you like he did. You’re leaving him because he treated you with absolute disregard, because he didn’t give a damn about how you felt as long as he got what he wanted. Who the hell needs a friend like that? A friend is supposed be have your back no matter what, be there to pound down a few shots, help hide a body, and everything in between.
Besides, no matter how bad a partner treats you in a relationship, it’s comfortable because it’s familiar. As time passes, the sting and the details of what they did fade, and emotionally, what you’re left with is the familiarity. Hell, I can hear it in your voice already. You’ve gone from wanting to bite him in the face to talking tenderly about wanting to remain friends with him.
I’m not saying if you don’t cut him off completely you’ll slide back into a relationship with him again….but it could happen again regardless of your intentions. At the very least, it can lead to awkwardness and hassle you just plain don’t need.
And seriously, he didn’t touch you for how many years, then cheated on you. Fuck him with a chainsaw man. Seriously. He doesn’t deserve to have you in his life at all.
Just sayin.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
you’re right KH….absolutely right.
Guess it is time for me to figure ME out now. Bc I have NO IDEA as to who I am anymore. And maybe I was meant to be alone. To remain alone.. ATM I am OK with that.
Guess it is time for me to figure ME out now. Bc I have NO IDEA as to who I am anymore. And maybe I was meant to be alone. To remain alone.. ATM I am OK with that.
Why is it when you say “I was meant to be alone”, I suddenly hear Linkin Park playing in my head?
CrawlING in my skIIIIIIIIN, these wounds they will not heAAAAAAAALLLL [/singing….poorly]
My marriage just ended not too long ago, so I get the whole “burned out on relationships because the last one sucked” thing. But you got to realize that you’re kinda a big, gaping wound right now, and any decision you make is gonna reflect that.
Example:
When I was 18, fist fights were one of my favorite late night activities. I also weighted a hundred pounds less, and ran ten miles a damn day. But right after my divorce, I thought “HEY! LET’S GO SPAR WITH THE UFC FIGHTER MY FATHER WEIGHT TRAINS! HE’S ONLY LIKE A FOOT TALLER THAN ME AND BUILT LIKE A GREEK FUCKING GOD! I CAN TAKE THAT BASTARD!”
Um….no.
Did not go well.
Point is, things that seem eminently reasonable right now will turn out to be totally fucking insane a few months down the road.
And more, statements like “I need to figure out who I am” and “I was meant to be alone” make you sound like a self-involved teenager after that devastating breakup with your hunny bunny of an entire week. While it may be true, saying so makes you sound like a douchenozzle.
Statements which, by the way, I myself was making in the wake of my divorce, and the major reason I dropped off the face of the earth for a couple months there. Not sure anyone here but Sherav noticed honestly. But I knew when I got over my funk, I didn’t want that cloud of self-involved bullshit hanging over the heads of my friends, online and off. So I huddled in my basement, occasionally having a crying/screaming fit while beating the hell outta my heavy bag, and let it work itself out before I rejoined impolite society.
Just sayin.
Love. Peace. Metallica.
i noticed you werent here KH, just thought you were busy doing shit:D And Blue….life does go on, and this dude was one cocksucker….things get better with time…heal yourself and find out the true you. Now i for one firmly believe people come into our lives for a reason, and then they move on or we move on, i’ve always looked at it like….”now what did i learn from that” And believe me i have had some truly fucked up relationships and extreme violence that you couldnt even imagine….my words of advice are “be true to yourself and look after number 1”
Michelle
You are all right. I know this…. I’ve been thru it before… And Michelle, I’ve been thru some pretty extreme shit as well – so I get where you’re comin from.
KH… I had my screaming fit last night. lol I started feeling so fucking overwhelmed (not to mention I had just come back from a friend’s funeral…so that DIDN’T help the situation) that the dam just broke….. scared the shit outta my poor Bouncer (my dog) and btw…. everyone sounds like a douchnozzle every once in a while. lmao
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