I am female, and have had my tongue pierced for almost 6 years, holy shit I did not realize it’s been that long 🙂 anyhow, I have never been seen as remotely slutty so I don’t think getting the piercing really changes a persons perception of a girl. The way I see it is if a female is seen as a slut with a tongue ring I almost guarantee you she was seen as one before she got it. The pain of getting a tongue piercing is relative as are most things but it shouldn’t be too bad.
Healing wise I’m not sure how fast it should close up but in that regard people are different. I use a flexible plastic tongue ring and plastic balls and have never chipped teeth or anything of the sort. Now and then I bite my tongue ring by accident but it’s not often or that annoying. Also when it comes to talking the first few days you need to take care of it a lot, use mouthwash whenever you eat, avoid smoking and drinking alcohol at least for a little, and the swelling goes down soon. I don’t have any lisp so most people don’t even know I have one til i mention it.
